How could divorce be O.K. for kids? Their hearts are broken and their minds are messed up. They have no home and have to grow up going back and forth between houses every week for almost 2 decades. Now tell me, how can that ever be good for them? I think if you brought them into the world, you owe them a home to grow up in and a serious commitment to your marriage. This isn't one of those refundable "oops, I made a slight error" type of purchases. You are affecting your kids forever. You have no excuse to do this to them.

The younger the children are when parents divorce, the easier it is on them in certain ways. However, this does not mean that divorce is easy for them. Children feel the loss of their home and their stability deeply and this applies to small children as well as older ones. Younger children tend to have abandonment issues following their parents' divorce - they worry more about separation and they trust less easily. This fear can last a lifetime. Younger children tend to become more anxious as a result of divorce while older kids often become more angry and depressed. A happy, stable home is the ideal setting for kids to grow up in. If that can't be arranged, then a respectful, safe and stable home is a good second. A conflicted home is less optimal. Under that is the divorced, broken home. Under that is the violent, unsafe home. What parents want for themselves and what kids need for their development are often at odds. You are wise to make inquiries concerning the results of this major decision you are considering!  Sarah Chana