You can certainly express your concerns - but you must do so in an obviously "concerned" way, not a forceful, critical way. There is a big difference between, "You know, Honey, I worry that 'Jed' can be harsh. I would want you to be with someone who was gentle and kind to you like Dad and I have tried to be," vs. "I don't know what you see in that creep; he's mean-spirited. You deserve a lot better than him!"  You can also go to your local library. They have books on teen dating and teen abuse. Many of these books are excellent and aimed toward the young reader. Pick the one you like best and leave it lying on the back of your toilet. Don't hand it to your daughter. If she asks you why it's there, you can tell her that you were concerned and wanted to check whether what you were seeing was actual reason to be worried or not. By the time your daughter asks you that question, however, she will have hopefully taken a good look at the book herself. Sometimes, unfortunately, people have to learn things the hard way. She may not take any of your guidance and instead, stay with this young man until she herself sees the harm in the relationship. There is only so much you can do as a parent - but you should do it anyway. It might at least speed up her learning process.   Sarah Chana