Try not to be defensive -  your daughter is in pain and is not thinking completely clearly. She needs a good sounding board who can help her reprocess the chain of events. If you just offer emotional coaching (listening and naming her feelings), she will be able to talk about what happened. She will most likely end up saying something like, "well, he was no good for me anyway and I'm glad we broke up. It's just that I'm lonely now. I wish I had a new boyfriend." To get her to this point you must be careful not to explain yourself, not to defend yourself, not to talk about yourself at all. Don't offer her any insights, no objections, no critique of her thought process. Just keep naming her feelings ("Your really upset with me - you wouldn't be in this predicament if it wasn't for me - you're furious with me for ruining everything for you...") As you play it back to her, she will soon hear the incorrectness of her own thoughts and straighten them out HERSELF. Listening will be the most powerful help you can give her.  Sarah Chana