First of all, keep doing what you are doing. You are providing an excellent model for your kids. They will certainly know the difference between acceptable and unacceptable speech. Also, continue to insist on respectful speech from them, using whatever forms of praise, acknowledgment and discipline you need to in order to ensure that they never resort to verbal abuse in their communication with you or with each other. Your children will recognize that their father is in the wrong and they will not want to copy him. They know the options and they know how to control themselves; in fact, they're likely to lose respect for him as he acts less mature than they do. However, you can't do anything about that - kids form their own relationships with each parent. The fact that the marriage continues gives the kids a good message:  you don't have to be perfect to be lovable. People have flaws that they need to work on but it doesn't wipe out all of their goodness. Encourage your husband to seek professional help for this problem. He is selling his family short and harming his own life with his verbal cruelty. Anger Management Therapy is not just for those who physically abuse others; it is available for verbal and emotional abusers as well. When the kids see that you are not just taking this poor treatment, they learn that people need to set boundaries. When they see that your husband seeks help, they learn that people work on themselves for a lifetime. So these are all good lessons. Your kids should be fine.   Sarah Chana