Our son is the same but we finally found an effective treatment: Bach Flowers! We read about these remedies on this site and decided to give it a try only because we were desperate. Somebody had asked this same question and they were told to try mimulus, aspen and rock rose for their child who was afraid to sleep alone. Ours was afraid to sleep alone so we bought the remedies and asked at the health food store how to prepare them and use them (very easy to do). Within only two nights the problem disappeared and she's been good for months now.

We also tried Bach Remedies but different ones. Our son just doesn't listen. He doesn't want to stay in his own bed because he just WANTS to stay in ours! It's not that he is afraid of his own room. Our naturopath suggested the remedy called VINE for kids who just want things their way. This one remedy worked wonders - not just for staying in his room but for cooperating in general.

To help your daughter stay in her own bed you can try any of the following strategies: keep the bedroom light on until she is sound asleep (and keep a night light on in case she wakes up). Buy her a "sleep companion" - a new stuffed doll or animal that makes her feel safe. Have a dvd playing lullabies until she drifts off to sleep or let it play all night long in case she wakes up. Give her prizes for staying in her bed all night. Put a little mattress on the floor in your room and let her come in your room in the middle of the night to use it - as long as she doesn't wake you up she can come in but if she tries to get into your bed you take her back to her room and she loses a privilege the next day for waking you up.  Sarah Chana