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| The good news is that doesn't last forever. My baby was like that till she was two and then I couldn't keep her near me without a leash! It's just temporary so don't worry too much about it. By the way, this is true of a lot of parenting problems.
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| Your daughter has formed a really great attachment to you - she's smart and healthy. I know it's inconvenient for you for awhile, but it's true that this stage passes on its own. And, you can't really talk a one year old out of her feelings so don't waste your time! If she's not too heavy for you, stick her in a back pack and go about your business in the house - she'll be in heaven and you can get some things done. If you go that route, get a really well constructed carrier with a metal frame and use it for a few minutes at first, building up your back muscles by extending the holding time a few more minutes each day. After awhile you should be able to leave her on your back for one or two hours at a time without a problem. The back carrier leaves your hands free so you can do more things. If you don't like that idea, you can try a side sling -where the baby sits on your hip. This leaves at least one hand free while the other may help support the baby on your hip or it may be free as well, depending on the carrier. If you don't want to carry the baby at all, be prepared to have her cry for awhile while you do what you need to do - there's nothing that can be done to convince a one year old to change her tune if she isn't happy. Bringing her to the rooms you are in may help but isn't always practical if you have to run back and forth for a bit. Just do your best. You will not be spoiling her or harming her in any way by letting her be near you now. In fact, the more she trusts your consistent presence now, the more independent she will be a year from now. When we force babies to be "independent" before their time, they tend to have more dependency issues for a longer time into childhood. So, if you can, hire someone to do the housework and you sit and relax for a few months with this baby on your lap - it all passes so quickly, you might as well enjoy it! Sarah Chana
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