Escalating fears can be a sign of anxiety or panic disorder but there is much a parent can do to help. An easy first intervention is Bach Flower Therapy - call a Bach Flower Practitioner (see www.bachflower.com for a list of practitioners). This simple and harmless naturopathic intervention often puts a quick end to fears and phobias. Of course, you shouldn't argue with your child's fear - name his feelings using emotional coaching (see Raise Your Kids without Raising Your Voice or the download on this subject.) EFT can also be of great assistance - see www.schoolmademucheasier.com for some child-friendly ideas. A professional therapist can help you set up a cognitive-behavioral intervention or give you more treatment options.   Sarah Chana

It is not uncommon for an anxiety to develop where there was none before. Sometimes there are other factors in your child's life that may contribute to this. For example, a change of some sort (school, house, new baby) or even returning from vacation. Perhaps there is something that strikes you. Whatever the cause however, you still have to deal with your son's escalating anxiety. Most importantly, accept and validate his feelings. He needs to feel that he is being heard. Statements like, "there's nothing to worry about," or "it will be ok," feel reassuring to the parent but not to the child. Name some of the feelings he is having in a very non-judgmental way. You could then share that it's alright to feel scared and that everyone feels scared sometimes. After you have "coached" his emotions, you could try some distracting techniques while you are waiting for the bus. You could have him ride his bike, play word games with you or even shovel the snow.You sound pretty anxious about this too, which is understandable. Our children's anxiety often feeds into our own. Try naming and accepting your own emotions. Emotion coaching is for all of us! The chances are that by doing this, your anxiety will diminish and so will his. Talk to other parents. Sharing experiences with others (even similar ones) can be very helpful. Keep in touch and let us know how things work out.

Don't you think we overthink things. My kids have been through many phases which I've ignored and they've passed. How can we expect our children to toughen up if we constantly pander to them?

Just posted this for another mom and can't say enough about this book! "What to do when you worry too much" by Dawn Huebner. It's a workbook that gives kids actions to do for illogical fears. It's gotten us through some rough spots! (Bus issues included) :) Best of luck!

Stanci
Kansas City, MO

clearly something happened on the bus one day. Ask him about it. Ask the driver. You need to know what triggered the change in behavior. Once that's done you'll be better equipped to deal with the issue.

Can you possibly ride with him on the bus one day?

Is there something makes him feel safe or happy like a stuff animal or toy? Maybe try having him take it with him on the bus ride.